The other night, Tim and I made an appearance at a local Bridal Boutique, Remi Raine for their one year anniversary. We expected to show up, make the rounds to the vendors there, network and meet some new people, and see a few people we knew. One of the reasons I love Remi Raine is Emily. She is this amazing person who runs the social media and does photo shoots for them etc. She is a doll, and is awesome to work with. The shots below are her work! You can find here here>>> https://www.emilyvance.com/
Anyway, that was what we were expecting from this evening. But I always expect fun, and new adventures wherever I go. I expect that I will be presented with fun opportunities, because I make fun a priority. So I was excited, but not really shocked, when Emily approached me part of the way through the evening and asked if I would like to walk in their fashion show happening later that night. I said “yes” of course, because that’s another thing I do. I say “yes” to things that I love, things I find fun, and things that are new. Walking in a fashion show, while not a new thing, was still something fun that I love. Then a few minutes later, she came rushing back asking if Tim would also like to be in the show to “walk me down the aisle” as the finale of the show. Fun is something he is working on (getting a lot better, but still working on) and sometimes he struggles to be spontaneous. But he agreed to walk with me. I think secretly he was hoping to be asked, but maybe that’s just me.
Next, I was presented with a few dresses to choose from, and though none of them were really “my style,” I chose a beautiful dress and it was put with the other dresses for the show. When it was time for all the models to get dresses, I stood waiting for my turn. While I was gazing at all the gowns on the rack that had been labeled with names, I saw a dress that made my stomach flip flop. It had a vintage feel to it. It was perfect. But my name wasn’t on it. I wished for it to come to me if that was the dress I was meant to wear, and honestly- I believed it was. A minute later, my original dress got swapped out for another dress that they were hoping would fit me, and it was beautiful, but wasn’t “my dress.” I happily tried it on, knowing that somehow I would be wearing that beautiful vintage looking gown. Sure enough, the new dress was too big and from the other side of the dressing room door, Emily said, “Well, here! Now you get to wear that amazing dress you were looking at!” And I literally almost laughed out loud as I slipped the vintage flavored dress on and it fit PERFECTLY. Of course it did. Because I knew it would.
Tim was a bit surprised when he saw me, since I was wearing a completely different dress than the one I sent back to the fitting rooms. I was all smiles, feeling like an absolute princess, knowing that I was supported in that moment, and knowing it was because I choose to have fun, and make having fun a priority. We both had so much fun, and we will remember this date night for a long time.
Are you uncomfortable yet??
Many people get super uneasy when you talk about making fun a priority. Because we’ve been so conditioned to believe that “nothing good comes easy”, that struggling is this badge of honor we wear in superiority, and that you work first-play later, we often put fun at the bottom of our priority list. We’ve learned to associate busy-ness, stress and riding the struggle bus with being responsible.
What if these things weren’t prerequisites for your success? What if by believing your success in life was inevitable, and so you showed up in that energy? Instead of that energy of striving, of killing ourselves over being successful, what if what mattered was “how we show up” not “what are we doing”??